The 3 S's

What are the 3 S's? They are sexuality, society and stigma. Something that I've wanted to do a blog post on for a while now but just never really got round to it.

I wholeheartedly believe that sexuality is fluid. Others may disagree but for me it's a subject that could be debated for years and years as everybody is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs on the subject. I find it so incredibly hard to justify the fact that we are only supposed to love the opposite gender and that anything besides this is 'abnormal' because of course it isn't. I came out as a lesbian 2 years ago now and although I am proud to be part of the LGBT community, it doesn't stop me from wondering why I ever needed to come out in the first place. After years of confusion and not knowing who I was, what I wanted I finally decided to speak out and say this is who I am you can either take it or leave it. As I've got a little older I've started to doubt myself, not my sexuality but why we put so much pressure on ourselves to have a 'label', ask yourself is that for you or for others? Is it so we can stand up and state whether we are straight, gay, trans, bi ect? I know I don't put a label on my sexuality for myself, I do it for others but I don't want to anymore. I don't need to explain to anybody what gender I like or who I want to be with. I believe that as human beings we are going to love who we love. Whether that's the same sex or the opposite, IT DOES NOT MATTER!!

We need to stop putting pressure on the fact that you must fit in a specific box and once you're in it you can never get out again. You can be whoever you want to be and nobody should ever question that. So you've always thought you were straight and suddenly you meet someone of the same gender and you feel and think things you've never thought before, but for the sake of society, whether that be friends, family and so on you don't act on those feelings because you are straight, no bullshit you are just human and you could have potentially just pushed somebody aside who is great for you because you are too worried about what others think and you're straight. Luckily we are living in a more accepting and diverse world but there is still a long way to go, there are still people being killed for their sexuality, kids bullied for being 'different' and it's all so wrong. I hope the next generation of kids and the generation after are told its okay if you like both male and female, you don't have to explain that to anybody and you most definitely don't have to put a label on it for others. 

I used to think labels were so important, especially when I first came out. I immediately wanted to fit into a specific category, almost so I knew my place which is so stupid. I even done a blog post on lesbian labels but have since deleted it because I hated what I had written and no longer thought those things. I will always stand by my thoughts on sexuality being fluid, labels are made for society and that stigma is something still very real and present in our world today but no matter what be who you really want to be and love who you love without fear.


  1. I feel you on this. Labels are there for the small minded. I hate explaining how 'I know I'm gay' or how do I know I won't 'go back'. It's ridiculous. I hate having to explain it all the time or having people tell me I'm wrong? I mean hello, it's my sexuality not theirs!

    Well done on this post though's nice to see others feel the same way :-)

    Emily ~

    1. I'm glad I'm not the only one! Labels aren't important and at the end of the day you are who you are :) x