Is this a bloggers meltdown?

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What do you do when one of the only things you feel you're good at doing suddenly becomes something you're struggling at. It's been 5 days since I last posted anything, now for me that's actually pretty good. I went through weeks at one stage where I didn't do anything blog related. This time it feels different, when I don't blog I feel guilty, I feel like I've let myself down. I feel like everything I've built up for the past 6 months is totally going to waste, the friendships I've made and the incredible readers that somehow find my posts remotely interesting. I'd like to think I'm not alone with those thoughts.

One thing that got me thinking whilst I was dwelling on why I couldn't think of anything to post was that isn't it a little bit ironic that my blogs name has the word 'inspired' in it when sometimes that's the last thing I can be. Now in the bigger scheme of things my aim is 12 blog posts a month, that's 3 a week, how hard can that be, right? Turns out some weeks that's an unachievable goal. 

So for days I've been racking my brain for blog posts ideas, I've been reading other blogs for inspiration and yes I even trolled through a whole load of  blog posts on blog post ideas, are you still with me or did that sentence totally lose you like it did me. But anyway still NOTHING. I sat down and admitted defeat, that was it I'd never blog again. I can't do it anymore, my blogs good for nothing and so the pity party began. Oh boring, who wants to read a post about a blogger having a total meltdown, okay maybe some of you do but I wouldn't, wait too late you're already reading one. Even worse I'm writing one! 

You know what though, this 'blogging melt down' has potentially done me a favour, I did not look at my blog for 2 whole days, I didn't look at how many views I'd been getting, even more worrying I've barely been on twitter. I needed a few days out to reinforce the fact that I do have ideas, actually I have quite a lot of them but I don't always have the time to get them typed up or I just genuinely don't feel like blogging on particular days. Some days I'd rather stay in bed, with a hot chocolate and marshmallows, some days I'll even push the boat out and have cream too. Then binge watch my favourite programmes on Netflix, maybe even finally getting round to starting Pretty Little Liars, WHO'S A. That's the best part about having your own blog, you decide what and when you want to write. But I promise I'm working on this whole scheduling thing because I can see it benefiting my blog as a whole. Am I finishing this post off by being a total hypocrite? oops. 

What is blogging success to you?

The word every blogger fears, success. What is success to you? Is one bloggers 'success' considered success to others? Everybody has different goals and aspirations so are we all really striving for the same thing. In some ways, yes, in other ways no. I'm sure we all have very different goals we would like to achieve, some may be very personal and others a little more generic in the blogging community. 

When I first started this blog I didn't think for one minute how many people would read it, how many followers I'd get or how many friends I would make from it. Naturally as the months went by and I started to develop a good relationship between other bloggers I thought okay I've done it, I've done what I set out to achieve. Now I've hit the 6 month mark my goals have got a little more ambitious, I've started to step out of my comfort zone in order to meet other bloggers, such as attending blogging events. Now this is something I can happily say I have already succeeded at and hope to carry on. 

Look back to when you started your blog, was you worrying about how many followers you had? Probably not. If you're anything like me you was worrying about what content you could create and if people would actually read it, let alone like it. With blogging comes along lots and lots of talking, especially on twitter. Twitter chats are where I have learnt the most. I have read for myself what success means to other bloggers, I loved the honesty in each reply.

To answer my own question, blogging success to me means interacting with your readers, receiving comments on my blog posts, a genuine interest from others. You can have the followers, you can have the views but to me what are those figures worth if you aren't speaking and giving back to other fantastic blogs. Knowing your blogs worth is something that ultimately only you can decide. By putting in work, comes good things and with hard work means success.

Don't worry about what others are doing, you started this blog for yourself. Your goals and ambitions are personal, there are so many bloggers today in the world that we're all at very different stages of our blogging journey. If you've just hit 100 views on a post, celebrate that could be a huge figure for you, if you hit 1000, celebrate! It does not matter if you have 10, 50, 100's or 1000's of views per post, if you get just one comment saying "this really helped me" or "I loved this!" Then there we have it, you have succeeded as a blogger in my eyes.

What does blogging success mean to you?

Glossybox August 2015

It's already time for August reviews on subscription boxes, where did the time go! I like to think I'm extremely honest when it comes to my reviews, whether that be a programme on Netflix, make-up products or these boxes and well here we go, I didn't like this month's box, Here is why...


Firstly, if you've read my previous reviews on Glossybox as well as my little box then you will know I am a sucker for beautiful packaging. Okay so I know the packaging isn't a reflection on the products inside but it's so plain and boring, I thought they would do something different each month. I was so disappointed to be faced with this dull looking pink box again. Packaging aside I had seen a sneak peek over on their website and they made this month's box sound incredible, after receiving it I'd say more mediocre. The advantage to this month's box is I received 4 full size products, usually you only get one so it was a bonus I have to say. 

 
Now don't get me wrong each of these products I got will come in handy at some point I'm sure, but I guess the 'wow factor' has disappeared. I didn't dislike this month's box because of the products, I guess you could say I'm now comparing Glossybox to other subscription services. However what I did like from this month is that these products came from the UK, America and Spain there are definitely a mixture of things suited to everybody in different ways, I'm sure. 

If I'm doing a fair review I will be honest and say I haven't yet used all of the products, so who knows I may find some come in extremely handy but I know one thing I already love the 'MeMeMe' Lip glide in the 'playful peach' colour, it is beautiful and is definitely a new essential in my make-up bag. I am very intrigued to try out all of the other products too, I will definitely get back to you on what I thought about them. 


By now I've usually read a few other bloggers review posts on the month's edition, but this time I decided not to till I had posted my own. Sometimes somebody else's opinion can cloud your own judgement, even if they are just beauty products! So I'm afraid this month's review is only a short one, a little disappointing too. September's edition will be my last Glossybox, but you can still expect plenty of reviews on 'My Little Box'. 

Are you a Glossybox subscriber? What did you think about this month's edition? I'd love to read some of your opinions. 

10 misconceptions of being a Feminine Lesbian

I never know whether to start my LGBT posts by coming out as gay EVERY time so any new readers know from the get go, or if older readers were oblivious to this fact. If so, how? I thought you all knew. But anyway, now that's over and done with I thought I'd do a little less serious post as all my LGBT ones seem to be quite serious and get a little too emotionally deep for my liking. I've read quotes and other similar things about misconceptions of being lesbian, gay, trans, bi and so on and then it came to me, I've heard so many relating to myself being what I class as a 'femme' lesbian and I couldn't help but laugh. Ready for a list, we all love lists don't we.

1. "How are you a lesbian if you're girly?" 
Hahaha oh god this one is p a i n f u l, SO painful and ignorant. Sometimes I find it hard to comprehend. Now listen up, because I like women do I suddenly have to cut 'girly' things out of my life, like seriously? Can't I paint my nails as well as liking girls, can't I love make up without it making me any less of a lesbian. 

2. "It's just a phase" 
Those 4 words are enough to drive anybody crazy, let alone when you're trying to tell somebody you're definitely, 100%, no doubt about it a lesbian. I mean for me coming out wasn't the easiest, as far as I know nobody expected it so when I did I know it was a shock for some. 

3. "You don't look like a lesbian." 
This is one where my hands quickly go over my eyes over the complete and utter stupidity of this saying. HOW ARE WE SUPPOSED TO LOOK? Our sexuality doesn't determine our personality or the way we look. We look and dress how we want to just like everybody else. We don't need to conform to any kind of 'look' because we are lesbians. If you want to dress girly, dress girly, if you don't want to that's okay you dress however you want. 



4. "Why do you date girls that looks like boys?" 
Right okay, so I've not experienced this one but it's so dumb I had to include it. Believe it or not I've read on the internet before someone say feminine lesbians date more 'butch' lesbians because they secretly like men, the logic in that I have no idea but it's pretty funny in an 'aww you're so ignorant' kinda way. 

5. We're all in fact bisexual. 
Yep you heard it, it's absolutely impossible to be a lesbian unless you have the guide to 'how to be a real lesbian' that's where it tells you how to dress and how to cut your hair like a lesbian. Lesbian haircuts exist, didn't you know? Sarcasm, of course.

6. We hate men. 
If you're a feminine lesbian apparently we hate men, we aren't dressing like one to prove we're a lesbian so we must hate them. Yeah that makes perfect sense! 



7. "So you're obviously the girl in the relationship" 
Well umm, I date girls, I'm attracted to girls, so hopefully we are BOTH girls. Uh yeah I'll leave you to think about this one.


8.  We aren't really gay at all.
Again you heard it, we're faking it. We go through the painful, awkward process of coming out to our loved ones only to be denying that in actual fact we're straight. This opinion is actually pretty offensive, don't ever say it to anyone. 

9. "But you're too pretty to be a lesbian"
This one's for the beautiful girls out there that face this huge misconception. So are lesbians ugly? Best get my 'how to be a real lesbian' guide out again and find page 30 where it rules you must not be pretty. Yes, I'm in!

10. It's just for attention. 
I have no words. 

There we have it, a list of ridiculous misconceptions and a heck lot of sarcasm. Let's just remember these don't just relate to femme lesbians, they relate to others too. 

I'm going to New York!

This post is a little later than I originally wanted it to be but I've just not found the time to type it up until now. Many will know this already but here it goes, I'M GOING TO NEW YORK!!! Yes, me, I'm actually going there and I am so freaking excited. There are actually no words to explain my excitement, so doing a blog post on it was a little silly of me. 

If you read a previous post of mine '7 places around the world I'd love to visit' you'll see number 1 on that list is New York. I have wanted to go to this beautiful city for years and years, I genuinely never thought I would get the chance to, I mean come on it's not the cheapest of places to visit. On April 8th of next year I will be jumping on that plane and off to have the most amazing adventure ever!! I can't wait to experience Time Square, Central Park the Empire State building and so many incredible other things New York has to offer. I keep forgetting I'm even going because it seems like such a long way away but just over 7 months isn't too long to wait, right? Ahhhh dreams do come true. 

Have you been to New York? Where was the best place you visited or was everywhere equally as incredible? I'd love to know the best areas to visit. I can't wait to take some amazing photos and have so many great memories to bring back with me, not to mention the blog posts I'll be able to share with you all. Officially counting down, so expect to countdown with me. 

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My first blogging event

As many of you may know if you follow me on any social media, particularly twitter, I attended my first blogging event yesterday and it was fantastic. I was lucky enough to have the whole weekend off work, which meant I was free to enjoy myself as much as I pleased. I discovered Southampton Bloggers on twitter a few months back and ever since finding them I have spoken to and discovered so many incredible blogs and local bloggers. Before yesterday I didn't quite realise there were so many of us in Hampshire!



I would consider myself an extremely awkward person, especially around new people, so attending this was definitely out of my comfort zone. I'm so pleased I did though, I don't have any blogging friends locally, so to have the chance to meet some was lovely. Before the event I can't really explain what I expected from the day, as I had never been to an event before I had no idea how they worked. Did we all sit there awkwardly, did I get my camera out and start snapping away, what do I do? Well I will tell you, you talk lots, drink lots (maybe... no of course you do) they did some bloody good cocktails at the venue which was at Revolution in Southampton. You also take lots of pictures! I feel a little gutted I didn't actually get in any photos with the girls apart from a big group photo, but I felt too shy to be like 'hey let's take a photo!' I told you I was awkward. Nevertheless I had a wonderful day full of laughter and all things beauty, lifestyle and blogging in general. 




I think the thing that overwhelmed me the most from the day was the fact that everybody was so incredibly kind and welcoming. I know you read it on twitter and in blogging groups about how nice the blogging community is, but it's true. I witnessed it for myself and I couldn't agree more that it's one of the loveliest communities to be part of. I'm in that photo somewhere, I promise. 

Photo credit goes to Southampton Bloggers.
Throughout the day, there were various companies around the venue that you could go to these included Hairfinity, Espa and Out come the Wolves all equally wonderful and very friendly! They also had some what looked like very tasty ice cream from Jude's and cupcakes from Love cake bakery. How did I not try either of these things?! How silly of me. 




I have to say thank you so much to Alice and Amy for organising an incredible event and thank you so much for having me there. My first blogging event has been a success and hopefully I will be able to attend many more without all my worries of meeting new people. Also a huge thank you for all my incredible goody bags from the day, I was amazed at all of the products I received. I can't wait to try them all out. 




The day was pretty damn good from the beginning and if you're yet to attend your first blogging event, maybe a local one like this I would definitely recommend in doing so even if you're a nervous wreck like I was beforehand. A good tip, is to plan to meet some people attending the same event beforehand like I did. 3 lovely ladies made me feel very welcome before I even got to the event and I don't think I'd of enjoyed the day half as much if I went in on my own, so thank you Charlotte, Sophie and Natasha

Blogging can open up so many great opportunities and help you meet lovely like-minded people like yourself so attending more blogging events in the future is definitely on my list of things to do. 

My Little Box first impressions

Right okay let's start right here in saying subscription boxes may as well be breaking my bank balance, really I mean it, it's addictive. I received the July edition of 'my little box' although I got it a little later than everybody else because I didn't subscribe till late in July. Let me just say, it is wonderful. July's edition was called 'my little road trip', and after seeing YouTube reviews and getting so many good recommendations I couldn't resist. 



If you've read my previous blog posts you will see I also subscribe to Glossybox, although they aren't entirely similar I have to say 'my little box' is definitely my winner. I think there is just something a little extra you get with 'my little box' that you don't get with Glossybox. A lot like all of these subscription boxes I am obsessed with the design of the packaging they create, they are truly beautiful! I only wish I could design something so fantastic, shame I am absolutely awful at art. My artistic skills go as far as drawing a stick man on a piece of paper, my lines still aren't straight even then.


One of the first things in the box that caught my eye were these cute little cards you receive with a lovely positive quote on them, blogger cliché here with the greeting cards but look how sweet it is!! I want to build up a big collection of these and somehow incorporate them into one big collage. Wouldn't that be heaven to the eyes? Or is that just me. 


Although I haven't used any of these yet, I am so bloody impressed! The only thing I won't be using are the gold tattoos but hey one thing out of 8 isn't bad. Two of my favourites from this box are the Garnier cleanser water and the travel organiser, which will be coming in extremely handy when I go to New York in April, oh yeah did I mention I'm going there!! EXCITING. I'm a sucker for gifts like this and for £11 a month (P+P £3.95) I think it is well worth the money. So there we have it, first impressions are very very good and I'm really happy with my first box. I can't wait to see what I receive next. 

Are you subscribed to any beauty/fashion/lifestyle boxes?